I was blown away once again today by how our minds work.
It is amazing how thoughts can insidiously creep into your brain, wedge themselves in and make you believe it was your own thoughts and opinion all along.
I am usually quite open, yet this once I can’t really share all the details because it’s not just my story. (My husband is now probably mumbling about why that’s never stopped me in the past regarding anything to do with him. That’s different. What’s mine is yours, what’s yours is mine…)
Seriously though, what I did learn today was that I made a big assumption about someone else (and one that’s been the basis of my viewpoint on a certain subject for years), based on a third party’s accusation about my own behavior towards that person.
Now years later, I finally learned that my assumption (that was made based on guilt laid at my feet) was totally misled. Wow. I can only imagine how much of my own guilt I would have let go of years ago had I stopped and been honest and asked. Or how I may have viewed things very differently.
And since all of the above was probably incoherent to anyone without derailed brain paths like mine, here is what I learned:
- Question,question, question and then ask again.
- If you have been made to feel guilty or been told something regarding you and someone else, go to the source and then question, question, question and ask again.
- If a thought or opinion is giving you a lot of grief, start to wonder if your base assumption is right. Maybe your thought/opinion is not your own and is incorrect. Have I said question yet?
- Be open minded and willing to hear someone else’s point of view even if it is very different than your own.
Have you ever had an opinion or thought that your opinion or thought was your own and only later on realized it was not really yours?
And more importantly, was this post intelligible to anyone other than me? Did anyone else other than me understand what the heck I was talking about?
*And if you have no idea what I am talking about, then no, this is not about you.
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