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Your Opinions Or Thoughts May Not Really Be Your Own

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I was blown away once again today by how our minds work.

It is amazing how thoughts can insidiously creep into your brain, wedge themselves in and make you believe it was your own thoughts and opinion all along.

I am usually quite open, yet this once I can’t really share all the details because it’s not just my story. (My husband is now probably mumbling about why that’s never stopped me in the past regarding anything to do with him. That’s different. What’s mine is yours, what’s yours is mine…)

Seriously though, what I did learn today was that I made a big assumption about someone else (and one that’s been the basis of my viewpoint on a certain subject for years), based on a third party’s accusation about my own behavior towards that person.

Now years later, I finally learned that my assumption (that was made based on guilt laid at my feet) was totally misled. Wow. I can only imagine how much of my own guilt I would have let go of years ago had I stopped and been honest and asked. Or how I may have viewed things very differently.

And since all of the above was probably incoherent to anyone without derailed brain paths like mine, here is what I learned:

  • Question,question, question and then ask again.
  • If you have been made to feel guilty or been told something regarding you and someone else, go to the source and then question, question, question and ask again.
  • If a thought or opinion is giving you a lot of grief, start to wonder if your base assumption is right. Maybe your thought/opinion is not your own and is incorrect. Have I said question yet?
  • Be open minded and willing to hear someone else’s point of view even if it is very different than your own.

Have you ever had an opinion or thought that your opinion or thought was your own and only later on realized it was not really yours?
And more importantly, was this post intelligible to anyone other than me? Did anyone else other than me understand what the heck I was talking about?

*And if you have no idea what I am talking about, then no, this is not about you.

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2 Responses to "Your Opinions Or Thoughts May Not Really Be Your Own"

  1. Naomi says:

    When we start to make an assumption about someone we need to take a step back and think about what it is we are thinking and then think about the other possible reasons why they have acted the way they did or said something. I think it takes practice. Yes i know what you are saying Susie.

  2. Dara says:

    I can not say enough, how important it is to check yourself. So many times in life we are quick to react when we should honestly slow down and respond. To respond is to take into consideration that it doesn’t have to be and we do have the ability to choose how we feel about any and everything. I’ve even been able to teach this to my children, when they come to me in a reactive moment, I simply stop and ask them ” Is this really a 10 or is this a 2?” it ususally snaps them out of it and they make a choice. Later at dinner or riding in the car I ask so why did you react that way and with my 9 yr. old it’s usually “well, on an episode of… I saw… and she…” i then remind her that … is only good at being herself and she should work on being good at being herself! Peace and Blessings! Oh and Cheers!