Feeling our own pain is normal.
Feeling other people’s pain is extraordinary.
It’s our ability to show compassion and empathy that makes the human race special.
I personally believe that there are reasons for the things that happen in our lives even if the reasons aren’t always apparent. While you may not subscribe to that school of thought you can acknowledge that every adversity is the impetus for growth and for learning things about yourself. Things that you would never have dreamed possible.
Pain is one of life’s greatest catalysts. It can make you or can break you.
Although pain is not lessened by others feeling and sharing yours, there is a measure of comfort in being wrapped up in others’ concern. It can help you find strength and it can provide guidance and support as you try to get through each day.
The ability to feel pain for people we have never met is the reason that there are aid missions and volunteers. I was so impressed when Gabby from Matter of Fact rose above her own personal fears and went on an aid mission to Haiti.
Sometimes, you feel pain for someone you never met and there is no real way for you to help except to send your thoughts and wishes.
A week ago I wrote about a tragedy that befell a family that my husband and kids know. The pain that I know the family must be feeling has stuck with me and made me reflect.
I wrote this poem with them in mind.
Then my sister called me an hour and a half ago to tell me her baby had died. She was about 36 weeks along and due to delivery by C-section in 3 weeks time. My heart is breaking for her, her husband and her kids.
I’m crying with her and being 9000+ miles away never stunk more.
I love you sis and wish I could be with you, comfort you and I wish I could have protected you from pain like this.
What was is
What will be
to be seen
Your heart is
so full of
Your mind is
and begins to
Your body is
listen or hear.
here and there.
the empty air
returns your gaze.
a single step ahead.
a fall down the steps.
Pain is good.
Pain is good,
it’s a knife
in your heart.
What am I meant to do?
How do I carry on?
The answer is
The truth is
that the truth
Life is now
The only balm
Live in the moment
for the past.
Live in the moment
a brighter future
is within grasp.
all be made clear.
Why the past
But for today
is more than enough.
“Life Is” © Susie@NewDayNewLesson 2010
Feeling others’ pain can be as difficult as dealing with our own. We need to remember that as difficult as life can be, the blessings also abound. It’s not always easy. Some times it’s more difficult than others.
Dealing with pain is about acknowledging your emotions and feeling them. It is also about choosing to live and deliberately seeking ways to celebrate the joyous and the glorious as well as the pain.
How do you cope with pain? Do you find other people’s pain to sometimes be as painful as your own?
I know my pain for my sister today is so great that I can’t even imagine how bad her or her husband must feel.
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This blog post was written for writing workshop #31 run by Josie at Sleep is for the Weak. I chose the third prompt “What last made you cry?”.