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Everyone Has A Gift For You & You A Gift For Them

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Coincidences Are No Coincidence

 

For a long time I have strongly believed that there is order in what appears to be a lot of randomness in our life. I believe that things and people come into our lives for a reason.

 

And I think that even the skeptics out there will at least admit that there is something we can learn from every person and every thing that happens to us. The people we meet and the experiences we have are what shape us into who we are.

 

Every person we meet has a gift for us.

 

And we have a gift for every person we meet.

 

Whether or not you believe in coincidences, you can still choose to believe that each person in our lives has a gift for us, enriches us and teaches us about ourselves.

 

And we have that same gift to give others. Sometimes our gift is given positively, sometimes negatively. Yet it is nonetheless a gift. Our behaviors and interactions are offered out to the people in our lives so that we can all learn and grow and evolve.

 

Each person in our life is a unique gift.

 

A young patient of mine passed on the other day. She left behind an amazingly supportive family including her husband and her aunt who I was lucky to have met. And she left behind three young children. 

 

And in her life, as in her death she had gifts of personal insight for me. She taught me about strength, about openness, about love, about relationships and about courage.

 

And in her death she taught me that you don’t always get a second chance.

 

I had been thinking about her the past few weeks because she was on oral chemotherapy at home and she wasn’t coming into the clinic. I wanted to know how she was doing and what was going on with her but I had lost her number.

 

So I didn’t call.

 

And then I got a call from her aunt. And I knew it was too late.

 

And I was sad for her family’s loss and I was sad for me.

 

Because while in life we had expressed our thanks and appreciation for each other, I missed out on a chance for closure.

 

I know she knew that I felt privileged to be able to care for her and even more privileged that she opened up her heart and chose to share her thoughts, feelings and experience with me. I know she knew that I learned a lot from her.

 

And I know how much she appreciated me for the gift of empathy and caring I was privileged to give her. I know because we spoke about it and a few months ago she sent me a lovely heartfelt card with beautiful flowers.

And even so, I didn’t act on what my heart was telling me. I didn’t call her when I thought about her.

 

I waited. And now it’s too late.

 

I know she is at peace now. She left this earth surrounded by her loved ones in the incubator of her own home.

 

And her last gift to me is a reminder not to wait.

 

We don’t always get a second chance.

 

So what gifts are you going to give the people in your life today? And what gifts are you going to receive?

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I am me and also lots of other things like a wife, a mother, a daughter, a sister, a daughter in law, a sister in law, a friend, an oncology nurse, a blogger, a life coach in training, an avid book reader, a chauffeur, a chef, a shopper, a maid and on some days a bit overwhelmed. On this blog I share my journey of striving to see the best in everyone and everything. Strive, because I don't always manage to. Yup, I am human. I would love to have you join me in learning lessons in positivity from life.

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7 Responses to "Everyone Has A Gift For You & You A Gift For Them"

  1. Heidi says:

    Beautifully written piece albeit on a very sad subject. Ever since you told me about this lady I cannot stop thinking about her children.

    My sister is currently undergoing tests and having biopsies so I can relate a little. Life is much too short and you really shouldn’t put off things that can be done today. I’m a terrible one for that and I blame having the children keeping me busy but I should always find time to pick up that phone, yet I don’t.

    She clearly appreciated all the care you gave her as she showed with the card and the flowers. I hope you can grieve without beating yourself up about not calling. I’m sure that she wouldn’t want you to feel bad about it.

  2. Be says:

    Its almost like Christmas all year round with everyone giving each other gifts all the time! We should all try and capture the excitment of just how great each meeting with another is – that would be wonderful :)

    Those ‘inklings’ we have sometimes are a power thing and often it is only afterwards [usually when we haven’t acted on them] that we realise the importance of them… The good news is that you have strengthened your ability to recognise and act on them for next time one pops up – that in itself is a valuable gift and one which I will take from this post :)

    A really nice post Susie – see you on Twitter

  3. Naomi says:

    Susie I see life the same way. People come into our lives for one reason. We may not know what it is at that time but we will later on. I think if you give out you will receive too – although not from everyone.

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