Coincidences Are No Coincidence
For a long time I have strongly believed that there is order in what appears to be a lot of randomness in our life. I believe that things and people come into our lives for a reason.
And I think that even the skeptics out there will at least admit that there is something we can learn from every person and every thing that happens to us. The people we meet and the experiences we have are what shape us into who we are.
Every person we meet has a gift for us.
And we have a gift for every person we meet.
Whether or not you believe in coincidences, you can still choose to believe that each person in our lives has a gift for us, enriches us and teaches us about ourselves.
And we have that same gift to give others. Sometimes our gift is given positively, sometimes negatively. Yet it is nonetheless a gift. Our behaviors and interactions are offered out to the people in our lives so that we can all learn and grow and evolve.
Each person in our life is a unique gift.
A young patient of mine passed on the other day. She left behind an amazingly supportive family including her husband and her aunt who I was lucky to have met. And she left behind three young children.
And in her life, as in her death she had gifts of personal insight for me. She taught me about strength, about openness, about love, about relationships and about courage.
And in her death she taught me that you don’t always get a second chance.
I had been thinking about her the past few weeks because she was on oral chemotherapy at home and she wasn’t coming into the clinic. I wanted to know how she was doing and what was going on with her but I had lost her number.
So I didn’t call.
And then I got a call from her aunt. And I knew it was too late.
And I was sad for her family’s loss and I was sad for me.
Because while in life we had expressed our thanks and appreciation for each other, I missed out on a chance for closure.
I know she knew that I felt privileged to be able to care for her and even more privileged that she opened up her heart and chose to share her thoughts, feelings and experience with me. I know she knew that I learned a lot from her.
And I know how much she appreciated me for the gift of empathy and caring I was privileged to give her. I know because we spoke about it and a few months ago she sent me a lovely heartfelt card with beautiful flowers.
And even so, I didn’t act on what my heart was telling me. I didn’t call her when I thought about her.
I waited. And now it’s too late.
I know she is at peace now. She left this earth surrounded by her loved ones in the incubator of her own home.
And her last gift to me is a reminder not to wait.
So what gifts are you going to give the people in your life today? And what gifts are you going to receive?